In laws? continued question some answers to some things said. am i moving in the correct direction ?

This my thought I have moved four hrs away to avoid constant contact. They come to see Claire now twice a year. I try to be fair and understanding that they love Claire also I let her go to avoid confrontation with my husband cause he says she will go whether I like it or not. Hoping that there is an understanding of the responsibly of desicions for her though there never is she will not be going back until I feel more comfortable with her in their care. This has become a on going event I do need to stand up for myself and my daughter. My husband will think I am a ***** anyway regardless. I am thinking maybe he needs to go back and live in the filth with these people and leave my daughter and i alone i can not imagine why he thinks that would be a right choice for her. I am on the outside these people are not kin to me looking at them as if are these people some that i would choose to watch her i say no. And i need to stick with that choice and not allow my husbands manipulative name calling make me decide differently for my child.